The Female Orgasm
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The Female Orgasm Blue Print
What youll learn in this chapter:
The blue print is broken down into 4 "Phases", and 5 distinct "Stages".
They are:
Now, I have to admit, I can't take credit for the overall "outline" of the blue print. This model is based off of the "Circular Model of Female Sexual Response", developed by Dr. Beverly Whipple and Dr. Karen Brash-McGreer.
As you can see from the diagram above, it looks impressive and informative, but...it lacks the steps to bring about an orgasm in the first place!
So, what I have done is taken this overall framework, and added the practical, technical, nitty-gritty instructions on how to get from one stage to the next (and ultimately an orgasm). That's where the sexual techniques come in (as you'll soon find out).
Here's a modified version of the Circular Model of Female Sexual Response, which I call the "Female Orgasm Blueprint":
It's probably a little easier to understand than the first diagram, but I'm sure you have some questions about it.
First, what I want to do is paint broad strokes and give you a general overview of each phase and its stages. On top of that, I'll show you what happens in a woman's body during each of these sections (and knowing this, you'll know what stage she's in, and know if she's having a real orgasm or not!)
Following the chapters, we'll dig deeper in each section, and I'll teach you the techniques you'll be using in each stage of the blue print.
And finally, once you've gone over the details, I'll provide you with a step-by-step plan (using this blueprint) that you can use to give your partner orgasms.
Believe it or not, the path to female orgasms begins OUT of the bedroom.
For a woman to have an orgasm, she has to be horny...and to get horny, she has to have some sexual desire in the first place...and for her to have sexual desire, she has to be attracted to you.
And that's the goal of the "Seduction" phase...is to get your partner sexual desire up so she's ready for the next phase.
Stage 1: Desire
Desire is made up of 2 distinct parts: Initial Desire, and Sexual Desire.
1. Initial Desire (Attraction)
The initial desire is when a woman is attracted to you. She can be a total stranger you meet at the mall, and if you two make eye contact, she might be attracted to you.
Or...she could be your girlfriend or wife, and because of that, she's already attracted to you (unfortunately, this isn't the case all the time though).
Now, because of the scope of this book, I'm assuming that you already have a sexual partner, (or that you can easily get one) and youre both ready and willing to have sex. In other words, you already have someone who is attracted to you, or you're someone who can easily obtain attraction from other women.
Because of this, I'm focusing mainly on sexual desire (discussed next) and all other things that happen in the bedroom. To fully cover the topic of attracting the opposite sex would take another book!
So, if you're a lonely, single guy who needs to know how to attract women (in other words, create that initial desire)...or...if you're already in a relationship but your partner has lost the attraction to you, take a look below:
2. Sexual Desire
The second stage is Sexual Desire. Sexual desire is when a woman wants to be with you sexually...in other words, she's horny!
And when she's horny, she'll be openly receptive to you touching her in a sexual way. On top of that, her body will be more responsive to the sexual techniques you'll be using.
Phase 2: Sensations
Now that she wants to engage in sexual activities with you, she'll be ready for Phase 2: Sensations.
This is a large section that covers 2 distinct stages: Excitement, and Plateau.
The "tools" you'll be using to get her relaxed will be a massage, and labial massage.
Most of the couples I've talked to don't even consider relaxation or sexual tension in their love making. Big mistake.
If you miss these 2 steps, it's going to be a lot harder for her to have an orgasm.
Genitals-Internal:
Genitals-External:
You'll start off slow, and gradually escalate the pace until she's reached her peak, and is ready to have an orgasm.
Breasts:
Genitals-Internal:
Genitals-External:
Phase 3: Surrender
Continuing the process, the "Surrender" phase is when a woman will have an orgasm. Now, I just want to make a note that because this system is designed to bring about 3 orgasms, we"ll be cycling through the Plateau and Orgasm stages three times.
The pre-orgasm is the moment right before the orgasm. You"ll learn what to do and what not to do to make sure that she'll successfully have an orgasm.
The Orgasm
The orgasm is when all the sexual tension you've built inside of her is finally released.
Breasts: Same as plateau stage
Genitals:
Phase 4: Reflection
The last phase of the Orgasm Blueprint is Reflection.
There are 2 important aspects to this phase: one is psychological (reflection), the other is physical (resolution).
Reflection:
The Reflection Phase leads back to the Seduction Phase of the next sexual encounter. In other words, what you do here will have an impact on the next time you decide to have sex.
Stage 5: Resolution
Psychologically, you'll want to reinforce the pleasure and satisfaction she just had, so when the cycle loops back into "Seduction" Phase, she'll be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often!
Physically, she's coming down, and going through a stage of "Resolution". This is when the body is physically returning back to its original state, and she's coming down from the orgasm.
What will you see during the Resolution Stage? Basically, her body will be returning to its normal, un-aroused state, going through a reversal that has been built up during the previous stages.
As you can see, these four phases encompass the full process of the female sexual needs and responses. In our next chapter, we'll get into what techniques to use during each section, and how to properly perform those techniques.
- The Orgasm Blue Print...what it is, how it works, and why you need it
- Changes that happen in a woman during each step of the female sexual response.
The blue print is broken down into 4 "Phases", and 5 distinct "Stages".
They are:
Phase 1: Seduction
Stage 1: Desire
Phase 2: Sensations
Stage 2: Excitement
Stage 3: Plateau
Phase 3: Surrender Stage
4: Orgasm
Phase 4: Reflection
Stage 5: Resolution
Stage 1: Desire
Phase 2: Sensations
Stage 2: Excitement
Stage 3: Plateau
Phase 3: Surrender Stage
4: Orgasm
Phase 4: Reflection
Stage 5: Resolution
Now, I have to admit, I can't take credit for the overall "outline" of the blue print. This model is based off of the "Circular Model of Female Sexual Response", developed by Dr. Beverly Whipple and Dr. Karen Brash-McGreer.
As you can see from the diagram above, it looks impressive and informative, but...it lacks the steps to bring about an orgasm in the first place!
So, what I have done is taken this overall framework, and added the practical, technical, nitty-gritty instructions on how to get from one stage to the next (and ultimately an orgasm). That's where the sexual techniques come in (as you'll soon find out).
Here's a modified version of the Circular Model of Female Sexual Response, which I call the "Female Orgasm Blueprint":
Female Orgasm Blueprint
It's probably a little easier to understand than the first diagram, but I'm sure you have some questions about it.
First, what I want to do is paint broad strokes and give you a general overview of each phase and its stages. On top of that, I'll show you what happens in a woman's body during each of these sections (and knowing this, you'll know what stage she's in, and know if she's having a real orgasm or not!)
Following the chapters, we'll dig deeper in each section, and I'll teach you the techniques you'll be using in each stage of the blue print.
And finally, once you've gone over the details, I'll provide you with a step-by-step plan (using this blueprint) that you can use to give your partner orgasms.
The 4 Phases
Phase 1: SeductionBelieve it or not, the path to female orgasms begins OUT of the bedroom.
For a woman to have an orgasm, she has to be horny...and to get horny, she has to have some sexual desire in the first place...and for her to have sexual desire, she has to be attracted to you.
And that's the goal of the "Seduction" phase...is to get your partner sexual desire up so she's ready for the next phase.
Stage 1: Desire
Desire is made up of 2 distinct parts: Initial Desire, and Sexual Desire.
1. Initial Desire (Attraction)
The initial desire is when a woman is attracted to you. She can be a total stranger you meet at the mall, and if you two make eye contact, she might be attracted to you.
Or...she could be your girlfriend or wife, and because of that, she's already attracted to you (unfortunately, this isn't the case all the time though).
Now, because of the scope of this book, I'm assuming that you already have a sexual partner, (or that you can easily get one) and youre both ready and willing to have sex. In other words, you already have someone who is attracted to you, or you're someone who can easily obtain attraction from other women.
Because of this, I'm focusing mainly on sexual desire (discussed next) and all other things that happen in the bedroom. To fully cover the topic of attracting the opposite sex would take another book!
So, if you're a lonely, single guy who needs to know how to attract women (in other words, create that initial desire)...or...if you're already in a relationship but your partner has lost the attraction to you, take a look below:
2. Sexual Desire
The second stage is Sexual Desire. Sexual desire is when a woman wants to be with you sexually...in other words, she's horny!
And when she's horny, she'll be openly receptive to you touching her in a sexual way. On top of that, her body will be more responsive to the sexual techniques you'll be using.
Phase 2: Sensations
Now that she wants to engage in sexual activities with you, she'll be ready for Phase 2: Sensations.
This is a large section that covers 2 distinct stages: Excitement, and Plateau.
Stage 2: Excitement
During the excitement stage, you'll be getting her physically
and mentally relaxed (so it'll be easier for her to release her orgasm),
creating arousal and transition into building up anticipation and
enough sexual tension so she can have an orgasm. The "tools" you'll be using to get her relaxed will be a massage, and labial massage.
Most of the couples I've talked to don't even consider relaxation or sexual tension in their love making. Big mistake.
If you miss these 2 steps, it's going to be a lot harder for her to have an orgasm.
What You’ll See During the Excitement Stage:
Overall:- Increased heart rate
- Increased breathing rate
- Sex Flush-Her face, breasts, hands, soles of the feet, and other parts of her body may become more red (doesn't happen in all women though)
- Muscle tone increases-shell feel more tense
Breasts:
- Nipples become erect
- Slight increase in breast size
- Veins become more visible
Genitals-Internal:
- Vagina becomes lubricated
- Upper 2/3 of the vagina expands
- Cervix and uterus pulls up
Genitals-External:
- Inner lips start to swell and open up
- Outer lips flatten out and spreads outwards
- Clitoris becomes larger and erect
Stage 3: Plateau
The plateau stage is when you make direct stimulation with her genitals. You'll start off slow, and gradually escalate the pace until she's reached her peak, and is ready to have an orgasm.
What You’ll See During the Plateau Stage:
Overall: - Further increase in breathing rate and pulse rate
Breasts:
- Breast size increases further
- Areola (the darker circle surrounding the nipple) swells and becomes darker. It can lead to the appearance of the nipple flattening out
Genitals-Internal:
- Increase lubrication
- Size of the vaginal entrance becomes smaller. It'll feel 'tight" as you enter her vagina. (But since the inner 2/3 of her vagina has expanded, it'll feel like there's a huge amount of space in there).
Genitals-External:
- Clitoris retracts upwards into the body, hiding under the clitoral hood
- Labia swells even more, becomes thicker and changes to a darker color
Phase 3: Surrender
Continuing the process, the "Surrender" phase is when a woman will have an orgasm. Now, I just want to make a note that because this system is designed to bring about 3 orgasms, we"ll be cycling through the Plateau and Orgasm stages three times.
Stage 4: Orgasm
Pre-OrgasmThe pre-orgasm is the moment right before the orgasm. You"ll learn what to do and what not to do to make sure that she'll successfully have an orgasm.
The Orgasm
The orgasm is when all the sexual tension you've built inside of her is finally released.
The “Multiple Orgasm Cycle”
After her first orgasm, she doesn't have to enter into the Reflection Phase. Here's why:
For guys, as you probably know, we enter in a "refractory period". This is when, after we have an orgasm, where we can't be sexually aroused (and usually want to sleep!) until an amount of time has passed.
On the other hand, women DO NOT have a refractory period, making it possible for them to have multiple orgasms.
IMPORTANT: Now, here's the key strategy to the Blue Print...she's going to go through all the steps and have an orgasm before you do, and then instead of relaxing into the Reflection Phase...you"re going to bring her back into the "Plateau" stage and repeat the process again, giving her multiple orgasms (also, you can choose to have an orgasm during the "Multiple Orgasm Cycle").
After her first orgasm, she doesn't have to enter into the Reflection Phase. Here's why:
For guys, as you probably know, we enter in a "refractory period". This is when, after we have an orgasm, where we can't be sexually aroused (and usually want to sleep!) until an amount of time has passed.
On the other hand, women DO NOT have a refractory period, making it possible for them to have multiple orgasms.
IMPORTANT: Now, here's the key strategy to the Blue Print...she's going to go through all the steps and have an orgasm before you do, and then instead of relaxing into the Reflection Phase...you"re going to bring her back into the "Plateau" stage and repeat the process again, giving her multiple orgasms (also, you can choose to have an orgasm during the "Multiple Orgasm Cycle").
What You’ll See During the Orgasm Stage:
Overall:- Sharp increase in heart rate and breathing rate
- Muscles contract throughout the body (including the pelvic muscles, arms, legs, thighs, back, buttocks, hands and feet)
- Toes may arch forward
- Panting breaths
- Uncontrollably shaking voice
- Her eyes are closed, nostrils are flared and she's unable to speak
- She may make bold, steady eye contract with you just before she lets go
- She may look a little like she's spellbound ... soft body, droopy limbs
- Her orgasm will last about 15-20 seconds, and as a general rule, under one minute.
- She may begin sweating noticeably
Breasts: Same as plateau stage
Genitals:
- Involuntary contractions of the uterus, anus and vagina (if you have your finger or penis inside of her vagina, it might feel like her vagina is "pushing" them out)
- She may ejaculate
Phase 4: Reflection
The last phase of the Orgasm Blueprint is Reflection.
There are 2 important aspects to this phase: one is psychological (reflection), the other is physical (resolution).
Reflection:
The Reflection Phase leads back to the Seduction Phase of the next sexual encounter. In other words, what you do here will have an impact on the next time you decide to have sex.
Stage 5: Resolution
Psychologically, you'll want to reinforce the pleasure and satisfaction she just had, so when the cycle loops back into "Seduction" Phase, she'll be thinking of you more, be more attracted to you, and want sex more often!
Physically, she's coming down, and going through a stage of "Resolution". This is when the body is physically returning back to its original state, and she's coming down from the orgasm.
What will you see during the Resolution Stage? Basically, her body will be returning to its normal, un-aroused state, going through a reversal that has been built up during the previous stages.
As you can see, these four phases encompass the full process of the female sexual needs and responses. In our next chapter, we'll get into what techniques to use during each section, and how to properly perform those techniques.
The Female Sexual Anotomy
Chapter 3: Female Sexual Anatomy and Other Erogenous Zones
In this chapter you'll learn:Female sexual body parts that are crucial to sexual pleasure, and where to find them Other body parts vital to arousal
The female sexual organs comprise one of the most intricate and sensitive nerve networks in the universe, and it's yours for the discovering. In this chapter, we're going to get up close and personal with the ins and outs of the female sexual anatomy and response.
I'll break it down two different ways: namely, the external anatomy (vulva) and the internal anatomy (vagina). We'll begin with the external structures, since it's here that we'll find that amazingly sensitive clitoris. The key to, arguably, just about every single orgasm any woman has.
External Female Sexual Anatomy
The Clitoris:
The clitoris is a small, highly sensitive organ that is very important to female sexual response. You can almost think of it as a "mini-penis".
There are 2 main parts to the clitoris (externally):
1.The shaft
2.The glans (or the clitoral head)
The glans is visible, sticking out like a small lump. The shaft disappears into the body beneath the clitoral hood, which is a layer of tissue that passes around the clitoris.
The clitoris varies in size for different women, much like penis size vary in men.
Women have been blessed with a sex organ with no reproductive purpose...it's only function is receiving pleasure. It has over 8,000 nerve endings which are intricately networked with the nerves throughout the pelvic region.
Although I've labeled it as an "external" organ, most of the clitoris is actually hidden inside the body.
The shaft of the clitoris extends into the body, and then splitting into two legs form an upside down "V" (the clitoral crura) which lie on both sides of the vaginal opening.
But the key feature of the internal portion of the clitoris is the fact that the clitoris surrounds the urethra (the passage where urine exits the bladder).
What does this mean?
It means that the pleasurable sensations from stimulating the "G-Spot" (the area on the upper wall of the vagina, below the urethra) is through contact with the inner parts of the clitoris!
Also, this can explain the "vaginal orgasm" (orgasm through vaginal penetration), since the interior parts of the clitoris is stimulated.
Mons pubis
The mons pubis is the fatty pad of tissue that's covered by
pubic hair. It lies on top of the pubic bone, and on top of the inner
clitoral structures.
Inner Lips (Labia Minora)
The labia minora are the fleshy hairless inner lips that lie on
either sides of the vaginal entrance. The inner lips come together at
the top forming the clitoral hood.
Outer Lips (Labia Majora)
The outer lips are rounded pads of fatty tissue lying on either side of the vaginal entrance.Fourchette:
You'll find it at the bottom of the vaginal entrance where the inner labia meet.
Perineum:
The perineum, more commonly referred to as the "taint", is the area between the vaginal opening and the vagina.
Anus:
Although she might disagree with you, the anus is a highly erogenous zone. But, to stimulate it doesn't require penetration. The anus has a high concentration of nerve endings, and can feel pleasurable when stimulated. Remember though, that any anal play requires special attention to hygiene, as the anus and rectum contain (and can spread) bacteria.
Interior Female Sexual Anatomy
vagina
The vagina is a tube shaped organ where the penis is inserted during sex (we all know this one!) But what you might not know is that most of the nerve supply of the vagina to the lower 1/3, near the entrance. In other words, the most sensitive area of a woman's vagina is near the front.
On the other hand, the deeper 2/3 of the vagina contains almost no nerve endings... so...it's insensitive to stimulation (a woman can tell you that she'll have feelings of deep pressure though).
What does this mean to you?
It means that, even if you have a short penis, you can still give pleasure to your partner while having sex, simply because the back of the vagina just isn't as sensitive as the front.
cervix
The cervix is located at the back of the vagina, and is the opening to the uterus.
Although the cervix has no sexual function, you should be aware of it during intercourse. The cervix is sensitive to pressure, and you could actually bruise it during sex if you're thrusting too hard!
If you have a long penis, then chances are you'll be hitting the cervix as youre thrusting in. Some women enjoy it while others will tell you that it's irritating. If thats the case, you might need to change your thrusting angles or sexual position.
G-Spot:
Locating the G-Spot…
The G-spot is located about one and a half to two inches up, on the anterior (toward the
front) wall of the vagina, at about 12 o'clock, or really anywhere between 11:00 and 1:00.
As you begin your explorations, start with inserting your forefinger gently inside of her,
curving and hooking it behind the pubic bone, and then moving it forward, in the "come-hither" motion.
Now with your fingers, move them in a "zig-zag" pattern. Essentially what you're doing is
scanning the ceiling of the vaginal wall for her G-spot.
Once you feel a small mound of spongy tissue that ranges in size from that of a nickel
and quarter - and having a rough texture different that the immediately surrounding
tissue - you've found it.
The G-spot swells up and gets bigger the more shes aroused, so if youre having
trouble finding it, chances are, she might not be aroused enough.
More about the G-Spot…
If you can manage to master the secrets of G-spot stimulation, you'll be in great shape with your lovers, likely claiming the honor as one of (if not the most) satisfying and amazing lovers they've ever had.
That's because G-spot orgasms tend to be felt at a deeper level and more intensely than clitoral orgasms alone. They also offer the additional spiff of being able to occur consecutively, with no "established" upper limit. And if you really get it down, she might even ejaculate. And what can be better than making your woman become a wetter?
These are the key secrets that separate the men from the boys. Unfortunately, it's actually a safe estimation that less than 1% of the world's population of men is able to repeatedly find, and them properly stimulate, their lovers... G-spots.
Urethral Sponge:
Some people think that the urethral sponge and the G-spot is the same thing, while others think that they're totally different. In any case, stimulating this area can cause massive pleasure, and female ejaculation!
The urethral sponge is a spongy tissue and surrounds the urethral canal. It's important because of 2 reasons:
1.Filled with nerve endings
The urethral sponge is filled with nerve endings, so stimulating it will be highly
pleasurable a woman.
2."Skenes Glands"
This is the key to female ejaculation.
When stimulated, the Skenes glands (also known as the "female prostate") produces a
clear ejaculatory fluid that gets released when a woman has an orgasm.
A-Spot
The A-Spot (sometimes known as the AFE-zone-Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone or
Epicenter) is a patch of sensitive tissue at the inner end of the vaginal tube between the cervix and the bladder.
Unlike the G-spot, which is in the shallow part of the vaginal depths, the A-spot is found all the way in. Penetrate using your middle finger, maneuvering up and all of the way to the back. You'll find it just in front of her cervix, where there'll be either a bit of tenting or ballooning of the vaginal walls in that area.
Also, unlike the G-spot where the texture is rough, the texture of the A-spot is smooth.
To stimulate the A-spot, you can use the fingering method mentioned above, or rear-
entry sexual positions, as well as frontal positions where you can hike her legs up for
good, deep thrusting.
Opening the Lines of Communication
Even if your lover isn't comfortable telling you what she wants, where she wants it and for how long, the two of you have to be close enough and open enough to offer important feedback and encouragement.
G-spot orgasms are markedly different than other orgasms, and it's a good idea to prepare your partner for just how different it might be.
The more you prepare her, the
more relaxed and comfortable she'll be entering the realm of the unknown. The first thing you should suggest to your lover is that she oral pleasure to the bathroom and attempt to pee.
Some of the sensations caused by G-spot stimulation will make her suddenly feel like
she has to urinate.
By going a head and using the bathroom before heading to the bedroom, you'll prevent her from worrying about peeing. Otherwise, she won't let go completely, and if she can't let go, she probably won't cum.
Even after doing a preliminary bathroom break, she may still be worried that she's got to pee.
Tell her not to worry, that's perfectly normal. Also, be sure to let her know that it is physiologically impossible for her to pee when at peak arousal.
Coach her that when the urge to urinate begins to come over her, not to fight that feeling.
Alert her to ride the wave, push through the fear. If she can make it through, she can get to the reward at the end... floating and falling, losing herself in your touch, her body wracked with wave after wave after wave of pleasure.
Other Erogenous Zones
There is much more to your lover's sexual network than what's in between her legs. Her entire body, from the tip of her toes to the top of her oral pleasure, abounds with
opportunities to pleasure her. Just a few of those erogenous zones include:
The Neck
Sexy and sensitive, the neck is ideal for, well, necking! Kissing, nuzzling, suckling and licking, as well as nibbling and massaging, are great ways to get her in the mood.
But be careful- hickies are tacky. Start slow and then increase your intensity.
Her Ears
The human ear contains bundles of nerve endings that equate to increased sensitivity. Capitalize on that by massaging them, kissing them, tickling them with your breath and
whispering in them to really drive her wild.
Her Lips and Mouth
Once things start heating up, dont neglect those kisses. Kiss her, deeply, passionately. Nibble her lips every now an then. Remembering to make up can really fire up your erotic playtime.
Her Scalp
Because of the shield of hair that most likely covers your lovers oral pleasure, the skin of the scalp can be incredibly sensitive to direct touch. Massage her scalp, run your
fingers through her hair, brush her hair, look for ways to pleasure her in this manner too.
Breasts
Aside from being incredibly sexy, breasts are also incredibly sensitive. There are some
women out there who report being able to achieve orgasm from breast stimulation
alone! Stroking, fondling, kissing, nibbling and tweaking the breasts and nipples are just
a few ways you might want to give the twins a little extra attention.
Her Ass
While the anus is sensitive (don't believe me, try giving her a rim job!), here I'm talking about the actual flesh on her bottom. The skin can be highly sensitive, and spanking,
stroking and kissing or gently biting the flesh can really make her toes curl!
Other erogenous zone areas include:
- Feet and toes
- The small of her back
- Behind her knees
- Collarbones and shoulders
- Her belly especially the imaginary line that runs from her bellybutton to her clit.

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The Female Orgasm - Key to Success
Chapter 2: Keys to Success
books is that I'll take you through a two-step approach that addresses the whole sexual
experience, instead of merely a portion.
The two aspects that this manual is going to focus upon are:
1. Strategy (the mindset and overall framework of the female orgasm)
2. Tactics (techniques and the "how to's")
The biggest mistake that you can make is to focus on the how-to without paying proper
attention to the best mind-set and strategies of the female orgasm.
In reality, the strategies are the key to unlocking the power of the techniques. You'll understand that while the techniques by itself can be effective, the mind-numbing, noisy, wet, toe-curling orgasms lies largely in the strategy you use when applying the techniques.
So, in order to get the most out of these tactics, you've got to pay close, intimate attention to the strategies
Key #1: Mindset
Your state of mind (and your partner's) can really make or break the chances of her having an orgasm...
The Wrong Mindset
How do you approach your lover's orgasms? You probably enter into sex with the mindset and goal of "giving an orgasm."
It's this approach that leads too many guys on a wild goose chase for the "perfect" strokes and techniques. It leaves you blindly seeking out every tip and trick out there, furiously testing them out on your lover.
I hate to break it to you, but this is the wrong mindset if you truly want to "give" an orgasm.
It sounds contradictory, I know. But it's true, and here"s why...
When you head into the bedroom with the goal of "giving" her an orgasm, you're setting
up expectations in both of your minds. This approach will create pressure on both you
and your partner that an orgasm MUST happen. Once you add pressure to have an
orgasm, it is virtually guaranteed to add some negative stress and anxiety during your
intimate times together.
And...as this stress grows, it will actually make it much harder for her to cum.
Have you ever seen a football or basketball player "choke up" during a game?
The fans, the crowds, the competition build up so much pressure for the athlete to
perform well that their focus is diverted from the game and to their anxieties.
Ultimately, they wind up screwing up. Too much focus and drive on your part to "give" an
orgasm can have the same effect on your partner.
If the stress and pressure get too high, she may be left unsatisfied. And because you
have set this "goal" to have an orgasm in a first place, and now that the goal is un-met,
both you and your partner will be left feeling disappointed.
If this approach is sustained, you may wind up anchoring these feelings of
disappointment to your times of physical intimacy carrying it over into your next sexual
encounter, further increasing her "performance anxiety."
The Right Mindset
Here's the paradox...
If you want to give an orgasm, you have to NOT focus on the orgasm!
Instead of focusing on the goal of achieving an orgasm, start focusing your attention on
the pleasure of the process.
The key is, if you focus on giving pleasure, and making sure she's feeling good, that
orgasm will come (no pun intended.)
Key #2: Communication
Not every technique will work on every woman. One woman may prefer one particular stroke or rhythm more than the next woman does.
To find out what really makes your woman tick, you've got to open the lines of
communication. You need to find out what she likes as you're applying a technique.
That way, you can optimize your rhythm, speed, stroke etc. to match what she likes
best.
Aim for open verbal communication, but if your lover isn't as brave speaking her mind
(especially when you're face is buried between her thighs) you can opt for more non-
verbal communicative methods, such as squeezing hands or body response.
Communicating well with your partner can make it much easier to bring her pleasure,
and ultimately, more and better orgasms.
Key #3: Escalation
One of the biggest mistake men make is moving too fast, too
soon. It works fine for us, but for a woman, she might not be ready
yet. For guys, we can come to an orgasm very quickly. Men basically need to get aroused, stimulated, and were done.
Women, on the other hand, need a gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.
With each of the stages of sexual response (you'll find out about this in an upcoming chapter), the intensity of the stimulation is increased.
Key #4: Anticipation and Tension
Anticipation (otherwise known as "teasing" and "excitement") is
a powerful and effective tool to use. In order to multiply the effects
of your sexual techniques, you'll have to add anticipation into the mix.
Anticipation will get her more aroused, give her a greater chance to have an orgasm and focuses her mind on the physical pleasure she's experiencing.
And...while you're building up anticipation, at the same time you're cranking up sexual tension as well.
The sexual tension will have to be released (in the form of an orgasm).
The key to building up anticipation is to focus on the areas surround the main "target" before you actually hit the target.
For example, you can do this by rubbing her inner thighs, buttocks and hips before actually touching her vagina. While you're rubbing those body parts, she's getting wetter and wetter by the second, anticipating you to finally move onto her vagina. At the same time, the tension is growing within her and at some point, it'll have to be released.
A note: when you"re building up the anticipation in her, it's going to build up in you as well! It's going to be your job to maintain self control, and keep the escalation at the right pace.
Key #5: Relaxation
A woman has to be completely relaxed to have an orgasm. If she has her mind on her job, self-conscious about how her body looks, trying to have an orgasm, or whatever the case may be, she's not going to be relaxed. She'll be tensed, and her body won't allow her to release an orgasm.
Your job?
To help those troubles melt away and disappear (even if only temporarily) with your words, touch, attitude and preparations. Your lover must be totally and completely relaxed and free from tension.
The only tension she should be feeling is sexual tension!
Key #6: Give Before You Receive
Before receiving any sexual pleasure from her, you have to make sure she receives sexual pleasure from you first.Why?It shows that:
1) You have control of your sexual desires
2) She'll be in a more "ready" state to have an orgasm while having intercourse, and
3) After she has an orgasm, she'll be ready and willing to reciprocate to the best of her abilities!
Seriously, if you can compare the quality of the blow job she gives you, the one performed without her experiencing an orgasm FIRST, will, ironically, SUCK compared to the blow job she gives you after she RECIEVES an orgasm.
Sex goes the same too...
Go ahead and test this out for yourself if you don't believe me.
Tips for the Woman in Your Life
Now I'd like to take a few moments to address the special woman
in your life. You can invite her over to the screen, print out the page
and tuck it into her briefcase or bring it up in your next sexual
conversation... 1.Allow yourself to let go. Don't feel selfish or sluttish; distracted or unworthy. Don't tame or subdue yourself. Don't hold anything back!
2. Don't feel afraid to get a little verbal. Quit biting your tongue or holding your breath. Let go and moan, groan or sigh if you want to. Don't force it or get too theatrical, but the man in your life will love to hear the sounds of your pleasure escaping your lips.
3. If you find yourself constantly stressing over hygiene issues like scent or taste or cleanliness, try incorporating a bath or shower early on in your schedule to prepare and improve your comfort level. Even better if you can invite him to join you!
4. Strive to gain greater comfort with your body and what turns you on. Take initiative to learn what really drives you insane with desire and then learn to communicate those hot buttons to the man in your bed. What do you fantasize about? What really turns you on?
5 Learn to believe your lover when he tells you he loves to pleasure you and make you cum he means it! And he's also telling you the truth when he swears up and down that he loves to eat your pussy! There are few things in this world that will give a man a sense of accomplishment or satisfaction than making the woman he cares about cum...
The Oxytocin Factor
Oxytocin is one of many chemicals that play a significant role
in orgasm and sexual response. It's a hormone that is secreted by the
pituitary gland and cases muscle contractions and sensitizes the nerves.
While oxytocin plays a part in our orgasms too, it's believed that it's
even more important in a woman's sexual pleasure. Not only does this hormone play a large part in the contractions that wrack a womans womb and vaginal walls when she cums, research has shown that increased oxytocin production in a woman contributes to more powerful, intense orgasms.
Oxytocin also plays an important part of a woman's emotional state and stimulates emotional pleasure and feelings of intimacy. It's often referred to as the "cuddling hormone" because it's this chemical that initiates feelings of connection, bonding and intimacy with your lover.
Stronger orgasms and emotional fulfillment... it's no surprise why this chemical hormone is so vital to a woman's healthy sexual response!
In later chapters you'll discover exactly how to release this chemical to make her feel more connected to you, and want to have sex with you more often.
Keys to Success in Action
I'm providing you with quite a bit of information. It's all well and good if you can read and remember the techniques and concepts, but if you dont apply them, you might as well not have wasted your time or money on this course.
Make a solid commitment to not only read this book, but to put the principles I share with you into practice in your every day sex life.
Team up with your lover and let her know what you're reading up on. Ask her to work with you and convince her to agree to offer you honest feedback on the new things you'll be trying out.
Believe me - she'll thank you for it later!

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